情侣间争吵时如何占上风

In order to help couples squabble more successfully, leading lawyer Jonathan Herring has penned a book called How To Argue.

业内顶尖律师乔纳森·赫林写了一部名为《如何讲理》，帮助情侣如何在和另一半争吵时占上风。

In his entertaining, no-holds-barred guide, the Oxford-based professor reveals everything Brits need to know about bickering² and tips on how to emerge triumphant³.

Before bumping heads with a loved one, Jonathan says it's vital to fully¹ think through what it is you want to say.

'Make sure you know the essential points you want to make,' he said. 'Before starting an argument think carefully about what it is you are arguing about and what it is you want. This may sound obvious. But it's critically important. '

After considering the strengths and weaknesses of your points, Jonathan says the timing⁴ and location of your quarrel is crucial.

To be victorious⁵ in a feud⁶, Jonathan says you should let the other person do most of the talking.

While being prepared and listening is key, he says that you should always have a 'get out' plan.

To stop the row 'ending in a deadlock⁷' having a 'preformed solution' can put an end to any uncomfortable arguments and help you to get what you want.

Jonathan's final tip is to try and stay friends with your partner despite the conflict.