不知大家有没有这样的感慨：工作中做到尽忠职守，兢兢业业相对容易，可要从中体会快乐，获得认同，赢得晋升空间却不是仅凭“勤劳”二字便可为之。如何谋得上级青睐，如何笼络人际关系，如何在讲演中脱颖而出，如何在会议上收放自如，别着急，答案立刻一一揭晓。

　　Do you work for a manager who meets all your expectations? Do you get along well and respect one another's abilities? If you answered yes to both of these questions, consider yourself lucky. 但是，也有不少职场中人常常有这样的疑问：What can I talk about with the boss especially when having the boss riding along on a long trip?

　　Thomas和Ian就遇到了以上的困惑。

　　Thomas对这次出差感到非常紧张。He has to deal with the boss the whole trip. "Nothing is more stressful than going on a trip with the boss." 而且，这次商务旅行的行程安排得非常紧凑，二人对此都感到很不满。 "They've scheduled the first meeting for 9:30a.m." "That's terrible! Don't they know how long it takes to get there?" 另外，Thomas抱怨很多时候，什么事情还没有确定下来，大家就要跑老远的路过去开会。"The worst thing is, half the time noting is decided¹ on these visits-there's no point in going all the way there, anyway." 事实上，虽然Thomas可以几天不去公司，不用做饭，但是他要成天和老板在一起。" But I don't get away from the boss." 所以He is down in the dumps。

　　Thomas的一系列抱怨表明他在和上司相处的时候感到压力万分，他和上司的关系似乎很普通或者不是很好。It's normal to have differences of opinion and style with your supervisor². 所以这时候Thomas最应该做的就是learn to accept these differences and work with them to limit his workplace stress。既然Having a healthy relationship with your supervisor usually means you're more satisfied with the work you do and have less stress，我们就来谈几条和上司的相处之道。

        How to Get Along with Your Supervisor

　　1 Show respect.Your boss is responsible for your work and the work of your colleagues. That can be a significant burden. Try to understand the business from your boss's perspective. 尊重上司，站在他的角度去理解问题。

　　2 Don't be afraid of your boss. Some supervisors³ can be intimidating⁴, but remember, your boss needs you. Your performance is often key to the success of your boss. 不要惧怕你的领导。即使他很强势，他还是希望你为他分忧。

　　3 Don't try to hide problems.First, try to solve the problem. If you can't and the problem becomes serious, let your supervisor know as soon as possible. 碰到你无法解决的事情要及时向上司汇报，不要让其他人把你的问题汇报给上司。

　　4 Give honest feedback. Of course, temper your honesty with diplomacy⁵. Choose your words wisely and use a gentle tone. Both should promote and contribute to an environment of mutual⁶ respect. 对上司讲真话。当然，你要小心措辞。

　　5 Maintain your boundaries. Getting too cozy⁷ too soon may lead to trouble. Not to mention that many bosses like to keep a professional veil between themselves and their employees.和上司过快地表现得很亲近可能会有麻烦，所以还是保持一定的距离比较好。

　　6 Manage your anger. This doesn't mean you have to sit and stew⁸ when you're angry. But learn how to communicate your anger appropriately. 在上司面前发火只会说明你缺乏自控能力。你要学会合理地化解郁气。

　　7 Learn to translate boss language. "If it's not too much trouble" means "Do it, and the sooner the better". 你要学会“翻译”上司的话语，当上司说“如果这不是太麻烦的话”，他的实际意思是“做吧，尽快去做”。

　　8 Embrace your strengths and face your shortcomings. Recognize your own talents and nurture⁹ them. Ask your supervisor for advice to help you grow in areas where you're weak. Take his or her advice and make an honest effort to improve. 发扬优点，改正缺点。

　　搞好了同上司的关系，我们同样渴望拥有一个和谐愉快的同事关系。那就赶快看看下面的小贴士吧。

        How to Be a Cool Colleague

　　1 Don't steal other people's things. Yes, we all like to borrow a stapler¹⁰ or mug every now and again, but return it. Nothing is more infuriating however minor¹¹ it seems. 借了同事的东西一定要归还。

　　2 Be trustworthy.If you are told a secret once and you share it, don't ever expect to be trusted again. 做个值得信赖的人，不要到处传话。

　　3 Don't expect your colleagues to carry your workload¹³. The working week ends on Friday afternoon - not Thursday lunchtime.自己分内的工作自己完成。

　　4 Acknowledge other people's successes with good grace and good humour. 真心赞赏同事的成就。

　　5 Remember, if you're gossiping and backstabbing someone, that person will assume you are doing it about them, too. In the office, be kind, considerate and keep your nose clean. 办公室里不议论他人，不攻击他人。

　　6 To make the right decisions and push them through, you will need the kid gloves more often than the boxing gloves. 做出一个正确的决定并去实现它，你更需要的是哄小孩的耐性，而不是要和自己的同事拼个你死我活。

　　现在，你已经和上司、同事之间关系融洽，相处和谐，那么接下来，你需要做的就是充分在众人面前展露自我，露出锋芒。Many of us feel tense, afraid, or inadequate¹⁴ in speaking in front of people. However, making a speech becomes a useful and necessary way to communicate with your colleagues or supervisors.

        How to Present Yourself in Public

　　1 Mental and Physical Preparation. Gather your thoughts through deep breathing and stretching to calm your nervousness.Mental imagery is a tool for a speaker to minimize or eliminate any negative thoughts or fears about speaking.心理和生理上一起做好放松的准备。

　　2 Proper Attire¹⁵. Do not wear anything that takes away from your presentation such as big jewelry¹⁶, loud colors, or excessive makeup¹⁷ unless it is part of your presentation. 注意着装，这会是听众第一件留意的事情。

　　3 Stop comparing yourself with other people. There will always be some people who have more than you and some who have less. If you play the comparison game, you'll run into too many "opponents" you can't defeat. 专心做好自己，不要陷入和他人比较的怪圈。

　　4 Accept all compliments with "thank you." When you reject a compliment, the message you give yourself is that you are not worthy¹² of praise. 接受每声赞美并真诚道谢。

　　5 Use eye communication. Find friendly faces and connect with the audience. Try to focus on connecting with your audience and eye contact will become comfortable. 用眼神和听众进行良好的交流。

　　6 Be extremely aware of your facial expressions and gestures. Always remember to smile at the audience. Use positive or open gestures instead of negative or closed gestures. 始终保持微笑并运用合理的手势。

　　你在众人面前慷慨激昂，才华毕现的确能让人刮目相看；如果你再能做到会议中展现大将之风，从容掌控局面，那么升迁晋级便指日可待。

　　Tips for Meeting Management

　　1 Ensure Appropriate Participants at the Meeting.Postpone¹⁸ the meeting rather than holding a meeting without critical staff members. 为了提高会议决策效率，需要确保会议关键人员到场。

　　2 Involve Each Participant in Actions. This ensures that each participant is invested in the topic of the meeting and in the follow-up. You’ll accomplish more results with the whole team pulling than with one dominant¹⁹ staff person trying to push everyone else up the hill. 调动所有人的积极性，确保每个与会者都在献计献策。

　　3 Be a referee²⁰ and employ a time-keeper. Have one person in the meeting be the slavish time-keeper so you can focus on facilitating, summarizing, clarifying, and just keeping things moving. 严格控制会议时间和节奏，确保议题的讨论顺利进行。

　　4 Have a theme. Make it clear why this meeting is happening, why each person is participating at a given time, and then use your agenda to amplify²¹ how the theme will be explored in each section of the meeting. 引导大家围绕议题展开讨论，防止跑题。

　　5 Stay on target. As soon as the needed permission, notification, or task assignment is completed, just move on to the next item. 目标明确，一个问题解决之后立即解决下一个。

　　6 Follow up If you have been utilizing²² a project manager or note taker, be sure to use a few minutes at the end for him or her to review any major new projects or action items that were generated in the meeting. 给做会议纪要的人几分钟的时间，让其把决议重点重申一下。

　　怎么样，看到这里，心中是不是有一种冲动，想要轰轰烈烈地干一番大事业？Don't put off until tomorrow what you can do today. 现在就开始行动吧！If at first you don't succeed,try,try again. 当然啦，也不要给自己过大的压力，祝你好运！