1. Start each day with a kiss--I think this one is not that hard; on the contrary; it can be healthy and nice.
用一个吻迎接新的一天。接吻如此简单,却能令人身心愉悦。
2. Date once a week--May not as often as once a week, let's say every other week or that a date can be inside your home and that you don't have to go somewhere fancy to have it, you get the idea, right?
一周约会一次。也不必非得一周一次,也可以两周一次。而且约会的地点可以在家中,不必非去什么特别的地方。你是不是明白了?有心就好。
3. Accept differences--No one is perfect. However; healthy arguments are good for the relationship, hence; the most important thing would be learning how to compromise with one another.
接受彼此的不同,因为人无完人。适度的争论可以增进双方的关系,但重要的是要在争论中懂得妥协。
4. Be polite--Please, thank you, you are welcome… these are not only meant for strangers; your own spouse1 and family should come first and you must always use these phrases inside your home.
多用礼貌用语。请、谢谢、不客气这些话不只要说给陌生人听,更要说给你的伴侣和家人听。在家里要记得多用这些客气话。
5. Be gentle--a person is supposed to be the closest to his/her spouse, being gentle is crucial to keep them close enough.
温柔一些——若想关系亲密,温柔是至关重要的。
6. Give gifts--nice small gifts are appreciated every once in a while.
给对方送礼物——偶尔送些甜蜜小礼物,就能令对方感激不尽。
7. Touch--intimacy2 between married people is very important and touching3 is a means of communication that reflects closeness, connection and love; it is your way of keeping the spark alive.
抚触——情侣间的抚触非常重要,它可以增进情感,传达爱意。它是情感交流的一种方式,它可以让爱的火花常燃不熄。
8. Talk about dreams--dreams of the future that is; if you don't share your dreams with your spouse; then who?
谈论梦想——说说对未来的憧憬。试想,若不和伴侣分享你的梦想,那么还能同谁讲呢?
9. Select a song that can be "our song" —— this sounds like a cliché, but it can be nice, don't you think?
选一首歌作为“你俩的歌”——听起来有点老套,但是不是很美妙?
10. Laugh together--laughter is medicine. When you share good laughs together; the fun grows in the relationship and you grow closer and stronger every day.
一起开怀大笑——笑是良药。当你俩一起开怀的时候,你们的关系也会伴随着笑声一天天地亲近和坚固起来
11. Send a card for no reason--another cliché? Maybe, but everyone likes to receive a nice "I love you" or "I miss you" notes every once in a while.
没什么缘由地送张卡片——又很老套吗?不过谁不喜欢时不时地收到些“我爱你”,“我想你”之类的卡片呢?
12. Listen--this could be the most important one ever, but note that you should listen with empathy and not just hear what they are saying; you should get involved.
聆听——这非常重要,但注意聆听的时候你应该全情投入并参与其中,而不仅仅只是听到了对方说的话。
13. Encourage--positive support and being there for one another is also very important; seek their support and give them yours and be generous!
鼓励——彼此支持是非常重要的。向对方寻求支持并慷慨地给予对方支持!
14. Do it his or her way--sometimes; you need to do things their way just to show how much you love them and respect their feelings.
按照对方喜欢的方式行事——有时候,你可以按照对方喜欢的方式行事,并以此来传达你对伴侣的爱恋和尊重。
15. Know his or her needs--what good is a spouse if he/she does not know the needs of their significant others? This should be your primary concern!
知道对方的需求——如果不知道另一半的需要,那还算什么好伴侣?这一点是首先需要留心的。
16. Compliment twice a day--everyone likes to hear something nice as a compliment; so give them that when it is due.
每天互相恭维两次——人人都爱听恭维话,所以在适当的时候说些好话。
17. Call during the day--but don't over do it and be obsessed4 with calling him/her. Give them their space but also show them that you think of them by a 2-minutes phone call saying "how are you doing?"
打通电话——不要总是给对方打电话。给他们一些空间的同时,打个简短的问候电话,让他们了解你的惦念。
18. Cuddle--yes; intimacy is very important and reflects love and deep feelings.
拥抱——是的,亲昵的行为可以传达爱意,增进情感。
19. Show respect--showing respect is more important than showing love.
尊重对方——显示你的尊重比表达爱意更加重要。
20. Welcome the other person home--show enthusiasm when they come home and greet them; this means that you are happy because they are home now and that you were waiting for them!
欢迎另一半回家——热情地欢迎你的伴侣回家。让他们感受到你的期盼和你的快乐。#p#分页标题#e#
21. Celebrate birthdays in a big way--this does not mean a big party; just show them you care about their personal occasions.
隆重庆生——并不是说你要为对方的生日大操大办,而是说你要传递出你很重视这个特别日子的信息。
22. Forgive--from the heart and not only in words.
宽恕——自心底而不是嘴上说声原谅。
23. Set up a romantic getaway--this sounds like fun every once in a while; no harm in that!
策划一次浪漫出游——时不时搞一次,其乐无穷,完全没有副作用!
24. Respond quickly to the other person's request--show them that you are doing this because you care for them the most.
快速响应对方的需求——这样做就是为了显示你有多么在意对方。
25. Treat each others' friends and relatives with courtesy--even if you don't like their family and/or friends, you treat them with respect and courtesy for the sake of your spouse; they deserve that much.
善待对方的朋友和亲属——即便你不喜欢伴侣的朋友和亲属,为了你的伴侣,你也要善待他们。
26. Admit when wrong--don't be too arrogant5 to say it.
有错的时候认错——不要自负到拒绝认错。
27. End the day with a hug--show closeness and again; intimacy.
用拥抱结束一天的生活——再次用亲昵的行为表达亲密的关系。