如果一个人和你约会后就不见踪影，可能有多方面原因，并不是因为你不够好。

 

Men and women come in several behavioural layers. As such, one might not feel connected to his/her date regardless of how beautiful and intelligent the person may appear.

每个人的行为都很复杂，有时会让人捉摸不透。因此，无论约会对象看起来多美丽、多聪明，有时你可能仍会感到与他/她之间有些距离感。

 

Getting a call back is not entirely¹ dependent on how well the date goes. A date can go sour and afterward², the person would reach out. Also, it could go well and you get ghosted.

并不是说约会顺利对方就会给你回电话。可能约会不太顺利，对方事后仍主动联系你；也有可能进展顺利，你却被甩了。

 

Ghosting, after a date, is based on different reasons and some far from how the date turns out. However, getting ghosted is not a gender-specific experience, men get ghosted just as women do after a date. Although, it is arguable that women get ghosted more than men, after a date.

约会对象在一次约会后突然消失，原因多种多样，有些原因甚至与约会进展毫不相关，与性别也同样不相关。约会后女性可能会被甩，男性也可能会。但总的来看，女性在约会后被甩的次数比男性多。

 

“被人甩”可能会让你让感到生气、难过，也可能让你感到困惑。你开始自我怀疑：我做错了什么吗？我说错了什么吗？我看起来不够好吗？

 

其实，正是因为你和约会对象没有沟通交流，所以你才不知道自己为什么会被甩。就算你自以为约会进行得很顺利，你也会觉得，发短信或打电话说这些实在难以启齿，对吧？

 

According to Natalie Jones, a doctor of psychology³, someone's reason for ghosting you has little to do with you. She suggests that it could be a result of attachment⁴ issues, emotional level, and several more.

心理学博士娜塔丽·琼斯说，有人把你甩了这事与你自身没太大关系。她说，这可能是因为爱慕、个人情绪或其他因素。

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