When our daughter was born, we named her Myles, after my beloved¹ late father, despite family warning that the name was too masculine².

Years later, when i felt she was old enough to understand, I explained to Myles, "Your name is very special. I named you after my own father because I loved him very much. I know he would be proud of you."

Myles thought carefully about this and  then said, "I know all that, Mom. But I don't understand why my grandfather had a girl's name

女儿出生时，我们给她取名叫迈尔斯，和我深爱的业已过世的父亲同一个名字，不顾家人提醒这个名字太男性化了。

几年以后，我觉得迈尔斯已经长大，能够懂事了。我对她解释说：“你的名字很特别。我给你取了一个和我爸爸一样 的名字，因为我非常爱他。我相信他会为你而深感自豪的。”

迈尔斯很仔细地想了一下，然后说道：“这些我都懂，妈妈。可是我不知道外公为什么会有一个女孩子的名字。”