在上一篇文章中我们谈到如何测定自己在工作中是否缺乏主张。我们从六个方面来剖析这个问题。现在我们来看看对第一个问题的解决办法：

1: I have a hard time disagreeing with people whose views I think are wrong.

对于认为持错误观点的人难以表示不认同

Addresses disagreeing with others

如何解决自己和别人的意见不一致

To disagree with someone you risk appearing rude, argumentative, or unlikable. This is why it is easier to be passive and keep quiet. The problem is that you will not get your ideas heard or acted upon, which can limit your effectiveness and status in your organization. 要表示不同意见，就要冒着看上去粗鲁、好辩、不讨人喜欢的风险。 这就是保持沉默和被动要更容易做到的原因。 问题是这样你的观点就不会被听到或付诸实施。这就会限制你在组织中的效力和地位。

Have you ever experienced that horrible feeling when you don’t say what’s on your mind and someone else does, and then they get accolades¹ for the idea? Don’t allow this to happen. Practice disagreeing with in less high-stakes conversations. When you disagree, do so with poise² and objectivity³. Simply state your view and the facts supporting it. Once you gain confidence in your ability to communicate disagreement, take some more risks in challenging situations.你是否曾有过自己不敢言，而别人却说出来，后来那人因为这个主意而获得奖赏的可憎经历呢？不要让这种事情再发生了。开始你可以在一些风险较低的对话中去表达自己的不同意见，把这当成是练习。表达自己的不同观点时要镇定和客观。只需要简单地阐述出自己观点和论据。从这种沟通中获得自信后，在具有挑战性的情形下，去冒一些更大的风险。（to be continued）