By Dr. Annette Colby

Every one of us has the potential to successfully move through the unique problems that face us. Yet, creating success often involves first identifying the many ways in which we continue to think negatively and the many ways we limit ourselves. The next step becomes replacing ineffective strategies¹ with newer, more empowered self-leadership strategies. Below are five tips to help you weed out negative habits and replace them with positive, supportive behaviors. 我们每个人都有能力成功地度过各自遇到的各不相同的问题。然而，要成功往往需要首先找到那许多我们一直消极思维和限制自我的方式，然后再用新的更有力的自我领导策略来代替这些无效策略。以下是五个帮你铲除消极思维习惯，建立积极行为的方法。

Create Harmony

达成共识

Instead of prodding², poking³, and forcing yourself to make changes, create harmony with the changes you want to make. Envision the life you would like to live and form a rich and rewarding relationship with that life. Build a bridge of loving respect between you and your desire. See your dream as a living, delicate⁴ entity⁵ needing your kind attention so that it can grow and take shape. All it takes is your heart and motivation to take pride in what you are creating. You have choice to struggle and be angry about creating change in your life, or you could take a breath and make a new agreement within yourself. Decide to create a phenomenal connection between you and your dream. 不要去敦促、催促、强迫自己做出改变，而是和你要做出的改变达成共识。想象出你希望过的生活，然后形成一种与理想生活之间丰富和有回报的关系。在你和你想获得的东西之间建立一个爱戴尊重的”桥梁“。 将你的梦想视作一种有生命的、细致微妙的东西，它需要你的亲切关注才能成长。你要做的一切不过是付出真心，为自己所创造的东西感到自豪。 在做出改变时，你可以选择痛苦挣扎或表示愤怒；或者你可以做一次深呼吸，和自己达成一项新的协定，在你和你的梦想之间创造出一个很好的联系。(to be continued)