By Dr. Annette Colby, RD, the Official Guide To Energy Healing

设定了目标，却总是管不住自己、行动不了？其实关键不是管住自己，而是要兑现自己和目标之间的承诺。

2. Manage Agreements

管理“协定”

In business management circles, there is a saying that you cannot manage people you can only manage agreements. Indeed, great leaders are compassionate¹ and attempt to understand the feelings of their employees, but they do not try to manage other people's emotions and personalities². Instead, great leaders get great results from their people by managing agreements. This is also true for self-motivation. Learn to make adult, respectful decisions about the direction you are moving toward. Make specific agreements about your responsibility and commitment to precise actions. Then ask yourself, "Can I count on myself to follow through with this commitment, with 100-percent compliance³? Can I count on myself for that?" If the answer is "Yes" then you have an agreement. Now, as you move forward and encounter inner resistance or emotional obstacles, you can manage your agreements without becoming trapped in sticky emotions. Agreements maintain motivation and action. 企业管理界中有一个说法：你管不了人，只能管理协定。的确，伟大的领导有亲和力，想要了解员工的感受，可是他们不会去管理人们的情绪和个性。相反，他们通过管理协定来从手下那里获得极好的结果。对于自我激励来说也是一样。学会就你前进的方向做出成熟的、尊重自己的决定。对每一个行为都制定出责任和投入上的明确约定。然后问自己：“我能指望自己对这个承诺有始有终，100%的遵守吗？我能做到吗？”如果答案是肯定的，那么你就制定了一个协定。之后，当你前进的时候遇到内部阻力或情绪障碍，你就能管理这些协定而不会困在情绪当中。协定能维护动力和行为。