I can't limit myself to one friendship
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These days having a best friend seems so important to girls. You want to be special. However I have learned1 the hard way that having one best friend is not the way to go. It's so much better to have many great friends.

As I was coming into Middle School, grade six, I was really excited because my friend Jennifer was going to be in the same Middle School as me! I was convinced2 that we would be the bestest buds(芽,花蕾). At first things were great, she introduced me to her friend Amy and we had lots of fun together. None of the girls from my elementary school were in my classes, but I wasn’t worried. I had Amy and Jennifer, and I could make some new friends. Then things started to change. Jennifer was very controlling: I couldn't make new friends, because if I hung out(闲逛,出外玩儿) with different people, she would decide that I was "mad at her and Amy." So I didn't make new friends, and pretty soon being Jennifer's friend was a struggle.

Jennifer wanted to be the "leader" of our little group. Amy and I were never partners with each other in class projects or gym; it was always, "Who gets the privilege3(特权) of being Jennifer's partner." It was either Jennifer liked me and she left Amy out or Jennifer liked Amy and she left me out. Amy and I both wanted to be Jennifer's number one. I don't think we ever really thought about how unfair things were. Being Jennifer’s friend became the most important thing in the world.

I always waited for Jennifer and Amy after classes, so we could walk together to our next class. Amy and Jennifer chatted by Jennifer's desk as Jennifer packed her books up and I waited by the door. Sometimes when they left, they'd walk right past me. No "Thanks for waiting." No "Sorry we took so long." It was as if they couldn't even see me. Yet I still waited after every single class.

Most of the time we gossiped(说闲话) about people, and I soon realized that nobody was good enough for Jennifer. Jennifer had a list of bad things about everybody, even Amy. And I'm sure she had a list of bad things about me, too. After months of living through school this way, I had really changed. I was moody4(易怒的), depressed5, lonely, and I didn't smile much. I spent lots of days trying not to cry, I felt so left out.

Finally, near the very end of the school year, something snapped6. I was so incredibly sick of being treated so poorly. I was sick of having to battle for friendship. I stopped sitting with Jennifer at lunch and I stopped waiting for her after class. It didn't take long: Jennifer quickly announced that I was "mad at her." I said, "I'm not mad, I just think I need to make some more friends," But with Jennifer it's all or nothing. If you didn’t worship7 her, she was convinced you were mad at her. So boom8, just like that, our friendship fell to pieces.

It was tough at first, but I found a lot of girls that Jennifer had classified9 as "Moody, Snobby10, or Mean" and found they were the sweetest, friendliest people in the world. They all said that they’d thought I was like Jennifer, but now that we had taken the time to get to know each other, that I was nothing like her.

I'm in Grade 7 now, and I have tons of friends. They support me when I am sad, and I support them. We have fun and happy times together and I love them all to bits. It amazes11 me how easy our friendship is. There's no struggling to be on top—we're all equal. I smile all the time now and I never feel alone. I have so many friends now, that it doesn't matter to me if two of them walk away or if two of them buy friendship necklaces together. It doesn't hurt my feelings or make me feel alone, because I have so many friends. We're all one big group of friends. Even though Grade 6 was horrible12, it taught me a lot. It's better to have ten or 20 awesome13 friends than just one best friend.

I wish Jennifer could understand, I still want to be friends with her, but I can't limit myself to one friendship. Maybe one day she'll look back at what happened and she'll change, but even though I lost a friend, I am a happier person.



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1 learned m1oxn     
adj.有学问的,博学的;learn的过去式和过去分词
参考例句:
  • He went into a rage when he learned about it.他听到这事后勃然大怒。
  • In this little village,he passed for a learned man.在这个小村子里,他被视为有学问的人。
2 convinced IvFzlG     
adj.确信的;深信的;有坚定信仰的v.使确信(convince的过去分词);说服
参考例句:
  • I am convinced of her innocence. 我坚信她是清白无辜的。
  • I'm convinced there's a jinx on this car. 我看这辆汽车是灾星。
3 privilege v1YzL     
n.特权,优惠,特许;v.给予优惠,给予特权
参考例句:
  • Of course,no country has the privilege of fishing in our coastal water.当然,在我国的领海内没有一个国家有捕鱼的特权。
  • He never abuses his privilege.他从不滥用特权。
4 moody XEXxG     
adj.心情不稳的,易怒的,喜怒无常的
参考例句:
  • He relapsed into a moody silence.他又重新陷于忧郁的沉默中。
  • I'd never marry that girl.She's so moody.我决不会和那女孩结婚的。她太易怒了。
5 depressed xu8zp9     
adj.沮丧的,抑郁的,不景气的,萧条的
参考例句:
  • When he was depressed,he felt utterly divorced from reality.他心情沮丧时就感到完全脱离了现实。
  • His mother was depressed by the sad news.这个坏消息使他的母亲意志消沉。
6 snapped 049d092795475d08a3fcd2d16ef4b519     
v.猛地咬住( snap的过去式和过去分词 );(使某物)发出尖厉声音地突然断裂[打开,关闭];厉声地说;拍照
参考例句:
  • The wind had snapped the tree in two. 风把树喀嚓一声刮断了。
  • He lost his temper and snapped irritably at the children. 他发火了,暴躁地斥责孩子们。 来自《简明英汉词典》
7 worship qMjzD     
n.崇拜,礼拜;v.崇拜,敬仰;做礼拜
参考例句:
  • The Greeks used to worship several gods.过去,希腊人崇奉好几种神。
  • Blind worship must be ended.盲目崇拜必须停止。
8 boom CWFz3     
n.隆隆声;vt.发隆隆声
参考例句:
  • The country is having a great boom in industry.这个国家的工业正蓬勃发展。
  • Boom!Boom!Boom!A series of explosions shook the valley.轰!轰!轰!一连串爆破声震撼山谷。
9 classified wwlzF7     
a.分类的
参考例句:
  • The books in the library are classified according to subject. 图书馆的书按学科分类。
  • This information has been classified top secret. 这一情报被归为绝密类别。
10 snobby 667d10674990d20663977c10de67e90a     
a.虚荣的
参考例句:
  • Can I really tell my snobby friends that I now shop at-egads-Walmart? 天呐,我真得好意思告诉那帮势利的朋友们我在沃尔玛买东西?
11 amazes 584fef26f0d89e402a2d0cc44c9e840d     
使大为吃惊,使惊奇( amaze的第三人称单数 )
参考例句:
  • Your knowledge amazes me. 你丰富的知识令我吃惊。
  • The power that amazes, We look, but never will see? 为什么这种令人惊异的力量我们看到了却永不会明白?
12 horrible drazZt     
adj.可怕的,极可憎的,极可厌的
参考例句:
  • This is a horrible monster.这是一个可怕的怪物。
  • That is a horrible accident.那是一次可怕的事故。
13 awesome CyCzdV     
adj.令人惊叹的,难得吓人的,很好的
参考例句:
  • The church in Ireland has always exercised an awesome power.爱尔兰的教堂一直掌握着令人敬畏的权力。
  • That new white convertible is totally awesome.那辆新的白色折篷汽车简直棒极了.
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