当别人犯错或是遇到困难时，我们都知道要安慰他、鼓舞他。但当自己遇到同样的情况时，我们却常常自责、惩罚自己，从而更加打击自己的自信和动力。我们应该学会善待自己，告诉自己暂时的困难没什么大不了，我们一定能战胜并取得最后的成功。

6. Practice Kindness

善待自己

Replace self-criticism with encouragement and motivating inspiration. You easily encourage everyone else in your life with praise and uplifting sentiments. Why not do the same for yourself? Imagine seeing a child looking forlorn because she cannot figure out the puzzle she is working on. You are not going to go over and verbally smack¹ the frustration² out of her, are you? Instead, you will probably talk compassionately⁴ to her, put an arm around her, see what is so upsetting, and inspire her with words that will keep her optimistic and inspired. Instead of punishing yourself when things do not work out right, begin cultivating compassion³ for yourself. You must feel deserving and worthy⁵ to sustain the motivation needed to achieve your desired outcome. 用鼓励和激励取代自我批评。在生活中，你会很容易地用赞美和激励人心的感情去鼓励别人。为何不为自己做同样的事情？想象一下一个因不能解答谜题而难过的孩子。你不会走上前，给她打击，让她感到沮丧，对吗？相反，你很可能会同情地和她交谈，用手臂拥着她，看看是什么如此令人心烦，用语言激励她，使她保持乐观，受到鼓舞。因此，当事情不顺利时，不要惩罚自己，要培养对自己的同情心。为了实现你的期望结果，就必须认同自己应得、值得受到鼓舞。