Dear John Letter 绝交信范例一

Dear John,

I have been seriously looking back upon our relationship and getting very clear on what I need and desire out of a relationship.

The conclusion I have come to is that we are too different in both our personality and our desired lifestyles to be able to successfully live together with joy, bliss¹, good communication, and interaction.

This is not about you or about me "winning or losing", or about one of us being wrong -- it is about two ways of being... which do not fulfill² each other, or go together. Though I had been open to having you visit with the thought that possibly we could 'try' again, after thinking about it a lot, I realize that it is not a good idea. I am very clear that we are not the 'right' people for each other at this time in our lives.

Please forgive yourself, and me, for any 'mistakes' we made along the way... and remember that we both have grown immensely through being together... but the time has come to move on.

So basically what I am saying is that I would like to 'cancel' my invitation for you to visit. I feel at this time, that I need to move on with my life, and having you come and visit would not serve any positive purpose. You need to accept that this relationship is over and open yourself up to receiving the blessings³ of the universe...

I think we both need to let go of the past, be grateful for what we had for a time, learn from our experiences, and move on from there.

Dearest John, we have been through a lot together... I have a learned a lot about myself, as you have learnt a lot about yourself. At this point, we are both ready to graduate to the next level in a relationship...What we have learned, whether while we were together, or whether after, through looking back on how we 'operated' together, will serve us in our future relationships.

It has been my experience, that all relationships that end are simply opening the door to another level of joy, and a better relationship built on what we have learnt in the past. So I know and trust that there is someone out there who will support you in your growth while loving you exactly the way you are... which is something that we were not doing for each other. I constantly judged and criticized you, in the same manner that you judged and criticized me... Out there is the perfect person for you that will love you and not find a single thing to criticize about you in the same way that you will not find a single thing to criticize about them... You will accept her as she is, even while seeing that she is not "perfect".

Do not see this as losing something, but rather as having gained knowledge and wisdom... Everything that you learned from us being together, as well as from us being separated, you will be able to put in practice in your next relationship to avoid the traps that we got into.

EVERYTHING ALWAYS WORKS OUT FOR THE BEST, and this is no exception. Trust in yourself, trust in the Universe, trust in the power of Love that rules our lives. Please don’t get into feeling sorry for yourself and wanting to 'end it all'. Rather, thank God for the learning experience, and ask for the openness to recognize the blessings in your life. They are there... open yourself up to being you, accepting yourself completely without judgment⁴, and loving yourself unconditionally⁵.

I wish you joy, I wish you happiness, I wish you heaven on earth. Please trust in yourself and the Universe enough to take some deep breaths, and start looking to find and create joy in your life. It is there... simply step out and claim it.

Blessings to you... Be the light!

Dear Cigarette 绝交信范例二

25 Smokey Lane
Our Town
4GO T10
Dear Cigarette,

For the past 17 years, you have been my best friend. You have seen me through difficult times, happy times and just about every phase of my life. You have always been here when I've needed you. Some of my family and friends didn't care much for you, but I always defended you no matter what. I always thought you were a great friend to have, and I counted on you at all times.

It's hard for me to tell you this, but in the past few months, I have been seriously thinking about ending our relationship. I've decided⁶ that I've just been too dependent on you, and I feel that at the age of 35 it is time that I start being more independent. I thought about just maybe seeing you once in a while, but I don't think that would work. Eventually, I'd start relying on you all the time again. I feel the only way to end our relationship is to end it for good.

I've always included you in everything I've done but next week, I'm going on a trip, and I've decided not to take you along. I feel this would be a good time to break up. I will be gone a whole week without you and if I can make it on my own for that week, I know I can make it forever.

It is a little sad for me knowing that I won't be able to rely on you anymore, but I think I will be a better person in the end.

Sincerely,

Letty Gogh