Many fathers these days want it all -- time with kids, promotions¹ at work and a spouse² who shares the parenting duties.

如今许多父亲都想多样兼得——有时间陪孩子，工作上获得晋升，妻子可以分担养家的责任。

But some say they would trade in their commute³（通勤） and office gig for a stay-at-home role.

With Father's Day just around the corner, a new study surveying nearly 1,000 fathers in the United States working at Fortune 500 firms takes a look at just how hard it is for dads to balance their work and life goals.

The study titled "The New Dad: Caring, Committed and Conflicted" was unveiled on Wednesday by the Boston College Center for Work & Family.

Dads have long been celebrated⁴ for their role as breadwinner in the family. Now the top priority of men with children under the age of 18 still living at home is the softer side of being a father -- providing love and support.

More than half of all fathers surveyed said they would consider not working outside the home if the family was able to live comfortably on one salary, a surprising change in perception, said Brad Harrington, executive director of the center.

"There's a lot of new thinking," said Harrington.

"But there is also an inability to let go of some of the more traditional roles that fathers have played and pick up some of the responsibilities that mothers have traditionally taken greater ownership for," he said.

For example, the study showed dads did not view day-to-day childcare tasks as a top priority, leaving a spouse to do the car pooling, diaper（尿布） changes and laundry（洗衣店） .

And, despite a desire to spend more quality time with the kids, after the birth of their children dads did not cut their work hours and said they were expected to do the same or more at the office, Harrington said.

Most dads acknowledged the parenting duties should be split equally, but it rarely happens that way, the study revealed.

That does not mean dads are not putting family first.

Job security was overwhelmingly important to fathers, the study showed, with high earnings⁵ and advancement⁶ taking a back seat.