Leap year marriage proposals — where, by custom, women are granted the once-in-four-years privilege of proposing to their beaus — hold the promise of giving women real power in their relationships, but ultimately, they actually undermine women and reinforce long-standing stereotypes¹ about traditional roles, a new paper concludes.

传统上讲，女性在闰年可以向自己的心上人求婚，这可是四年一遇的难得机会，而且有望使女性在恋爱关系中拥有实权，但最新研究表明，闰年求婚从本质上讲对女性不利，并会强化人们对传统男女角色的长期刻板印象。

And after examining a century's worth of evidence of societal views of women who propose marriage, the research concludes that we're not likely to see greater acceptance of these proposals anytime soon.

"Women have made tremendous advances in many aspects of their lives, but in courtship（求婚） , this penultimate（倒数第二的） act is still not valued or respected," said researcher Katherine Parkin, a professor at Monmouth University in New Jersey².

Parkin's article was published in the January issue of the journal Family History.

In her research, Parkin pored over（注视，凝视） references to leap year proposals in postcards, advertisements and newspaper columns dating back to 1904.

The evidence she found suggests that the proposals have always been fairly unusual, and their rarity and the attention given to them has only underscored the idea that in society's view, men should be the ones to initiate³ marriage. Leap year proposals are the exception that proves the rule.

The custom has really been only a "safety valve" for women's frustrations⁴ at being dependent on men, Parkin said. The tradition gives women a supposedly "acceptable" chance to propose, but this chance is given only once every four years, and even then, their right to ask a man to marry has not been taken very seriously.

In fact, Parkin said she was surprised by the "incredible nastiness（不洁，污秽） " toward women in postcards created in the early 20th century. Sending postcards was the craze back then, and leap year postcards depicted⁵ women — usually unattractive older women — holding guns to men's head in efforts to extract a promise of marriage. "They really disparaged⁶ women in ways that are cruel and heartbreaking," Parkin said.

Her research showed that women who propose seem to lose a bit of their femininity（温柔） , in the traditional way it is viewed, and likewise men who accept a proposal lose a bit of their masculinity（男子气） .

Even today, women who propose are the exception, Parkin said, pointing to the example of pop star Britney Spears proposing to then-boyfriend Kevin Federline. "Very few women have the wealth and power of someone like Spears, and her short, troubled marriage, as well as her struggles with her mental health, only make it less likely that other women would want to emulate⁷ her," Parkin said.